From Ugly duckling to sex object – Late night Rant

Hello My beauties! 

I want to talk about something serious, this is a topic that truely gets to me, the deepest parts of me hurt from this. 

Sure, everyone has the “awkward phase” somewhere between middle school and high school you go from being cute to… just plain awkward! 

but what about those of us who were bullied for our looks as kids, but now that we’re grown up… those same guys just want to see you as a sex object? And it’s not just those guys, it’s most guys.. 

it’s almost more degrading then being hated for your looks, at least then you knew who your real friends were…
Now you walk down the street and get cat called, guys talk to you with the sole intention of trying to get you into bed just for the night, and lose interest as soon as they find out that’s not going to happen. 

It’s such a lonely feeling, and people don’t understand. They don’t get why you don’t want to be a constant 3rd wheel, or why you don’t want to be set up with their friends.. 

Getting treated like that is something that just hurts so bad, and it sometimes gets to the point where you almost let yourself be treated that way, you feel like not much is going to change so why bother?
you feel like nobody is going to give you the respect you deserve.

I know it’s hard.. but you do not owe anyone anything! You don’t a man anything, if he’s not going to respect you.. then don’t even give him the time of day, you can definitely do better then that. 

I really like to keep my blog on a positive note, but this is something that’s been bothering me for years now. I really, really want anyone who knows this feeling, to know that they aren’t alone. If you’re feeling like this, you don’t have to be so lonely. If you need someone to talk to, you can talk to me! I definitely understand! 

I think it’s extremely important that everyone realize that they deserve to be respected, men and women! Don’t let anyone treat you like you owe them something, ever! 

Like I said, I like to keep my blog positive, but some things just need to be talked about sometimes. Honestly, I’ve considered writing a book on this exact topic, I’m not sure how far I’d get, but I’d like to give it a try. 

Even if it’s for other reasons, please know that if you ever feel lonely you can send me a message, my contact info is always listed all over the place. 

thanks for listening, love you all so much!! 

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15 Comments

  • Shopaholicsblog June 15, 2016 at 1:01 am

    Very true

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    • Lauren June 21, 2016 at 9:21 am

      It’s so sad that it has to be that way.

      Reply
  • chloe cashmere June 15, 2016 at 2:03 am

    As someone who has been on both sides (i used to be a boy), it was kinda shocking when i got dressed up in an outfit and makeup that made me feel pretty, feminine and happy and excited, only to go out to meet a world of men who assumed i was dressing for them. x <3

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    • beauty90 June 15, 2016 at 6:16 pm

      Exactly, that’s a huge problem. A lot of men think that everything we do is for them.. I don’t understand!!

      there are definitely some good ones out there, I’m not over generalizing, but it’s frustrating 🙁 Good luck!! and like I said, I’m here if you need to talk!

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      • chloe cashmere June 20, 2016 at 10:34 pm

        Thank you gurl! Xx you’re right about good ones . I’ll keep loving reading you. If I needed to talk it would just be about lipstick and angora cardigans or something soooo <3

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        • Lauren June 21, 2016 at 9:20 am

          you already know I’m down to talk about lipstick and candles any time too!! haha

          thanks so much for reading, it means so much 🙂

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  • Nailmattic Beauty June 15, 2016 at 6:39 am

    Excellent post!!

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    • beauty90 June 15, 2016 at 6:17 pm

      Thank you!

      Reply
  • nanciec13 June 15, 2016 at 12:43 pm

    glad you know who you are! Hold on to that. Blessings.

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    • beauty90 June 15, 2016 at 6:17 pm

      Thank you!

      Reply
  • Claire June 15, 2016 at 12:48 pm

    Thanks for writing this; I really appreciate hearing your message. <3

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    • beauty90 June 15, 2016 at 6:17 pm

      Aw thank you!!
      Like I said, if you need someone to talk to, feel free to contact me

      Reply
  • badger1899 June 16, 2016 at 6:34 am

    This got to me. I have felt like this a lot growing up being bullied for me looks, and then grown up and men well being very disrespectful and I have been in some situations where I have gotten very scared and had to call someone to walk me home from the bus stop. So thank you so much for putting this out there, Lauren. If you write a book, I will read it and make everyone I know read it.

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    • beauty90 June 18, 2016 at 8:18 pm

      I know how you feel, it’s a tough world out there.
      I hope it gets eaiser

      Reply

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